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Aren't You Tired Of People Judging You?
By: David Hopkins
Wed, Nov 14, 2012
Judge Not Lest Ye Be Judged
Don't you hate it when people try to judge you, doesn't it make you distrust them and make you feel like you can't be open or share anything with them because they're just going to judge you and try to make you feel bad.
And not because they care, but because they can use it as an opportunity to make themselves feel good, and seem important by insinuating that they're better than you at something.
Some people even get mad when you don't accept them judging you and try to say that it's God judging you.
Which is nonsense.
Because even if what they're judging you about is true, the truth is, God is good all the time, considerate, humble, meek, kind, generous and forgiving, so constantly beating people over the head is not what He's all about.
Don't ever fall for that trick, because that's certainly not the will of God.
It's their own pride and desire to be important that's the problem.
And that is to say that judging people is counter productive to the will of God.
And this type of behavior is the reason people leave churches and distrust pastors and elders who try to make people feel bad while not disclosing their own struggles.
Matthew 7:3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
God does not want you to focus on what people are doing wrong.
But rather you should tell them how to get out of the situation.
Because in most cases they probably already know it's wrong.
And in some cases they don't want to change.
In which case you pray for them in secret.
But even in the cases where they are just misguided and you have the opportunity to convert them, you must explain carefully, considerately, with gentleness and kindness.
So you can appeal to the good that the lord has established in all of us. (Luke 6:33).
Yes the Holy spirit convicts us when we mess up, but not so you can talk crazy to yourself and call yourself stupid,dummy and idiot.
But so you can get back on track quickly without having to put yourself through a lot of unnecessary suffering like you did before.
The Bible says don't be sorry because the Joy of the lord is your strength. (Nehemiah 8:10).
Find a way to bring joy and happiness, not sadness and shame.
Love is what overcomes all, not scornful pride or judging and causing shame and bitterness.
Remember when Jesus saved the adulteress woman's life by reminding the people of their own sins.
And of course He never committed a single sin at all, but all he said was...
John 8:11 ...Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.
Don't you hate it when someone criticizes you for something they heard you say or seen you do just because their way is different from yours?
Don't you wish they would realize that everyone is different, situations are different, was raised differently, and have their own way of doing things.
Don't let people force their advice on you especially if they can't do it respectfully.
You'll change if you want to change.
And that's not God.
And trust me, if He really wanted you to change then guess what...
And guess what else.
He's not going to force it on you.
But there's a fine line between being judgemental which could turn someone away from the path of God and actually sharing good advice that helps people understand what God is about, is doing and has done for us all.
Why did Jesus say this?
Matthew 5:22 But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.
I think He is warning us about the dangers of being judgemental and unforgiving.
And maybe being judgemental is the reason why some people are so unforgiving.
Nevertheless, God is not interested in condemning people or forcing change on people by making yourself seem like you're so good, because you are not.
You depend on the grace of God just like everyone else.
Even the homeless and downtrodden. (Luke 18:10-14).
This is also the reason Jesus converted so many prostitutes and publicans.
Because He was always kind considerate, forgiving, gentle and understanding.
While the religious groups we're rude, self-righteous and condescending. (Luke 18:10-14).
But I suppose this article could be summed up by an old saying that says, "you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar".
Meaning you have a better chance of helping someone by being nice and considerate than you do by being rude and judgmental.
And to further the conversation there are people who don't realize there judging you.
Because they live with the attitude that, it's better to be blunt and say whatever's on your mind without considering how it may affect someone.
But when you turn the tables on them, of course they get offended.
Or you'll tell them to stop judging you and they'll accuse you of being insecure.
Then they'll try to sneak in rude jokes or condescending comments that do the same thing.
But the worst thing about judging or being judged is the devil will use this negative activity as opportunities to break people down over time and cause strife if you do it to others or allow it to be done to you.
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